Archive for February, 2012
As I’m writing this post it is day 3 of my 7 day business trip to Bangalore, India. I first thought about writing about every day of this trip but changed my mind as besides the fact that I’m here for business and don’t have the room to “take in all of the sights” I also wanted to take some time to really enjoy my surroundings and learn more about the people that I’m working/meeting with, that are running the hotel I’m staying in, as well as those around me. I can tell you very candidly that I’ve been treated better here while on the street or in the hotel than I have been in some states in my own country. I can also tell you that traffic in Bangalore is absolutely crazy yet entertaining at the same time. While I’m here in India, I have been doing (like I do a lot when I’m visiting anywhere outside of my home or hometown) of introspective thinking as well as gaining of perspective on issues that I normally might not think about too seriously.
Sometimes it takes having to go away from all that’s familiar for you to see the little things that are not only really important in life but that also over the long haul turn into the important things that we sometimes take for granted. One major takeaway that I can give you from this is simply that you really can learn from just about anyone, anyplace, or any situation so don’t belittle or make the mistake of buying into stereotypes of ANY race or people because you really never know what they are like until you experience them for yourself.
Fear is something that I believe every human being on this Earth has had experience with. Fear causes people to react in ways that they wouldn’t normally react and do things that might not normally be in their character because people, for the most part, aren’t taught an honest way to handle their fears. For some people they react negatively to fear and never master it. As a result they live in fear all of their lives and never find out who they really are or what they’re really capable of. Some of the negative reactions of fear include fear of loss causes some people to horde and be stingy; fear of failure causes some people to stop trying so that they never have to experience failure again; fear of disappointment causes some people to lie when they feel that they are going to lose favor with someone.
On the other hand some people use these very same fears in a positive light to conquer some of their issues and move forward in life. For example: fear of loss causes some people to be honest about what they’re afraid of losing in order to get their priorities straight and truly value what’s worth valuing; fear of failure causes some people to conquer this fear by (as Henry Ford once said) increasing their failure rate so that they can achieve the success they desire; fear of disappointing people causes people to truly face their values and be honest with people for they understand that if the people in their life can’t respect their honesty then maybe these people don’t need to be in their life.
Either way you look at it, fear can be a powerful motivator or a powerful suppressant. It all depends on the person who is confronting the fear and what their view of fear truly is.
Sometimes it’s very hard to stay encouraged when things don’t seem to line up the way you think they should. Other times it’s hard to be encouraged when it seems like people in your life are sabotaging your dreams and goals for no apparent reason. Even still when you believe nothing is going your way and that the world is against you it’s kind of hard to not get discouraged, and while discouragement is a completely normal emotion to feel under certain circumstances, DON’T STAY DISCOURAGED! As I always try to be transparent in these post I can tell you first hand how easy it is to get discouraged but I can also tell you that it’s just as easy to get encouraged after that. But if you allow discouragement either intentionally be people or unintentionally by circumstances stop you from achieving your dreams and goals, then these dreams and goals never really meant anything to you in the first place.
While that may seem like a harsh statement it’s true because there should be no amount of discouragement that should keep you from continuing to strive to reach your dreams and goals. Everyone has a different way of dealing with discouragement but one thing is constant, don’t allow discouragement to linger or else it can turn into despair and desperation, two places that you never want to be in. So while this is a short post today, I hope that you get the message that if you get discouraged, DON’T STAY DISCOURAGED, pick yourself up and press forward.
What you say you believe will be manifested by what you actually do so don’t say you believe [or believe in] something that you’re not willing to walk out with your actions. Some people believe that it’s their right to bind others with their words, I say that’s just pure crap and the thinking of an insecure and unhappy person that doesn’t want to see people do better than them. Children are a joy, a blessing, a miracle, hard work and the most worthwhile and greatest investment on Earth as their dividends are worth more than any stock you can find.
If you want to reach a goal you must first have a plan. Once you do then you need to actually work the plan or else it just becomes creativity in the form of words that’s wasting space and being replaced with complacency, a most deadly disease. With all the death I’ve seen lately, I’m reminded to make sure that I take good care of my health and you would be wise to do the same.
Sometimes if you are patient enough you will find that your dreams really can come true l and with that I’ll say goodnight and end this post.