Wednesday I discovered that I was not going to get a business opportunity that I had been pursuing for the past 2 months. At first I had the attitude of “it is what it is”, but as they day went by it really started to bother me and make me feel really bad. After all, I’d been pursuing it for 2 months, it would have put my family and I in a better position financially and helped us recover from the financial setback we suffered when I was laid off almost 2 years ago, and it would have gotten me closer to the achievement of a particular goal of mine sooner than I had anticipated. This disappointment carried on throughout the rest of my day.
When I woke up this morning I realized one thing, a setback can only put you back if you allow it to and you know what, I’m not allowing this to set me back. And it is the basis of that thought that I want to share with you today. If you feel like you have experienced a setback, you really need to examine what it is that you believe has set you back in relation to your goals, because chances are it may not truly be the setback that you thought it was. I say this because most of what stands in our way in life is not people, places, lack of resources, and the like; it is ourselves.
You are and always will be either the greatest obstacle in your way of achievement or the one thing that will propel you into what it is that you have worked and dreamed for. This is not to say that a person never experiences a real setback, but it is to say that most of what we think is a setback is more of a mental perception issues than an actual issue. So if you really want to overcome a setback that has gotten in your way, you should really:
- Identify if what you are experiencing is really a setback or if it’s a mental block due to disappointment.
- Make a decision that any setback that occurs will not discourage you from your goals.
- Make a deliberate, calculated eff0rt every day to get you closer to your goals.