I have found that there are times when forgiveness is not enough. These times are:
- When trust has been broken.
- When someone has divested themselves of a relationship.
Once trust has been broken it’s not that easy to rebuild, but it is possible to do so. Rebuilding of trust only comes when there is a willingness and action to go along with that willingness to be transparent with who you are today and to maintain that transparency going forward. If this happens on a consistent basis there is hope that trust can be restored. Once the trust is restored the possibilities for what can happen next are endless.
When someone has divested themselves of a relationship it is hard for them to want to become re-invested. This is a hard thing because for someone to become completely divested means that they are depleted and have nothing left to give or don’t have a desire to give anymore. I can’t say that I know how a person goes from being divested to invested again as this is a very emotionally draining process in either direction. From my opinion and standpoint, only God can help a divested person become an invested person again.
I felt the need to write this because this seems to be a common theme with myself and people in my life. Not the clearest post I’ve written, but it comes from a very honest place and I hope that it’s helpful.