Archive for October, 2010
Most people that grew up in my generation recognize this as a phrase made popular by Rev. Jesse Jackson during his attempts to become President of the United States, however I’m not looking to reference that. I’ve been going through several major life changes in the past few months, and some of them have taken a heavy toll on me.
To be quite honest, there have been times as of late in which I just wanted to give up, give in, and just quit on my unfulfilled dreams and goals. But then I had to remember something, in fact it was something that I previous wrote right here in this blog, I had to remember what helps me. In my case, I had to remember sources in which I received strength, encouragement, and renewal. Sources that allowed me to keep hope alive and well.
So please don’t give up no matter how hard it may seem right now. Keep your hope alive, and you will find that you will be able to succeed and achieve.
You know as a teenager I always found myself trying to be someone else depending on who I was with. I was an honors student throughout my school years and in my high school many of the “popular kids” were honors students. So like many other teenagers, I tried to lie my way into popularity and I was popular for all of the wrong reasons, lying being the chief of those reasons. I just wasn’t happy with who I thought I was as it seemed to me that who I thought I was wasn’t someone that most people wanted to be around. The truth of the matter is that I didn’t have a clue as to who I was at that point in my life.
So many people spend their lives trying to be someone that they are not all because they are not able to answer one question; who are you? When you are asked that question by a random stranger the most common answer is to give your name, but if you think about it, that doesn’t answer the question at hand. The question of who are you doesn’t deal with the name that you’re given. It does however deal with your character, values, dreams, and goals. This question is the very question that solidifies your identity; not in the aspect of what your license shows, but in the aspect of what your character personifies.
I’ve said this to some of my former students (as many of them can attest to) if you tell me your dreams, I can tell you who you are because hidden within your dreams are your values and morals, the very things that your character and identity are based on.
I’ve met so many people that base their lives on what their favorite celebrity is saying, doing, wearing, and endorsing. In fact, I believe (and I could be wrong) that if you asked 10 people to tell you who they are using what I have stated is the basis for this question that at least 6 of them wouldn’t know how to answer the question without a reference to pop culture, fashion, music/music videos, or movies.
It is vitally important for you to know who you are, because if you don’t know who you are, then someone else will not have any problems molding you into someone that you were never meant to be. It’s similar to a saying that I’ve heard very often in my life, “If you don’t have a plan for yourself, you’ll be a part of someone else’s plan.” I’ll modify this just a little to illustrate my point, “If you don’t know who you are, you will become whatever someone else decides they want you to be.”
I believe that everyone of every age group goes through periods of reflection and revision (when they already know who they are) or self-discovery (when they are trying to find out who they are). Both events are equally important and are heavily influenced by significant life changes that can occur. But it’s only when you are fully aware of who you are that you can make lasting changes in your life as well as begin to realize your dreams and goals.
It’s better for you to find out who you are and be that person rather than a clone of someone else. Your were created and made as a unique creature that has no duplicate in this world, so be who you are for the world needs what you have to offer!
One of the key components to your ability to achieve your goals as well as the overall quality of your life is the living behaviors that are present in your life. Below is my definition of Living Behaviors:
- Any set of habits, actions, or activities that are done on a daily basis by a person or organization that create and breathe life into a persons or organizations current state of being.
So if there are Living Behaviors, there must be an opposite right? Here is my definition of Dead Behaviors:
- Any set of habits, actions or activities that are/are not being done at anytime by a person or organization that contribute to the death of the state of being of a person or organization.
Do you get the picture? There are some behaviors that are alive in us today that should be dead and vice versa. The definition I gave of a Living Behavior means that if you are a procrastinator or lazy (both of which I have been and have chosen to no longer be), then you are giving life to your inability to achieve your dreams and goals.
On the flipside, if you are focused, driven and determined you possess behaviors that can bring life to all that you desire to do and be. This is the time to identify the habits, actions or activities in your life that are currently living and in serious need of death as well as to identify those habits that need to be resurrected or in some cases birthed within you.
What are some of your living behaviors that contribute to your success that you wish to share with others? What about those dead behaviors that are causing you to falter and fall short? Are there any living behaviors that you once had that you need to bring back to life?
I encourage you to share your thoughts on this topic so that we can all grow and be the better for it.
There are times in our journey of success and dream fulfillment in which we lose course, or as in the last blog post become discouraged or distracted and forget about the people and things that really help us to be productive not just in the overall focus of achieving our dreams, but in the day to day steps that we must take in order to achieve our dreams. This is when we must remember the people and things that we have that are helpful to us in the achievement of our dreams and day to day tasks.
Each person has a different set of tools and people that help them. Personally, I like to listen to certain types of music when I’m performing certain day to day tasks. When I’m listening to really good and creative music I find myself inspired not only to do the mundane tasks that I don’t particularly like (cleaning for example) but to be creative in how I approach my goals and day to day tasks. When it comes down to it, good music also inspires me to create good music as well as other creative endeavors that are all part of my overall success strategy (I guess it’s the musician in me).
When you feel like you’re stuck or getting thrown off course, just remind of yourself of what you have that helps you to focus and achieve.